A pretty absurd looking image, as writers Holly Eagleson and Lauren Wade found out when they remade a selection of controversial ads as part an essay on sexism for Take Part. 'I think as a whole we've just gotten used to seeing women depicted this way, and the only way we can change it is if we stop staying silent and demand change,' Ms Wade told The Huffington Post.
Whenever someone makes the argument that one way to stop rape is to teach men not to rape, the response is usually some form of “but most men know that rape is wrong.” I don’t doubt that most men would say rape is wrong. I haven’t been out in the field to conduct a study on men’s attitudes toward rape, but we’ve had enough education around rape and sexual assault that it’s not hard to believe most men, if asked, would say rape is a bad thing. Great.
The problem is this — what do they consider rape? When the United Nations conducted a survey on sexual violence in Asia, “researchers intentionally didn’t use the word ‘rape’ in any of their questionnaires about Asian men’s sexual histories,” according to ThinkProgress, “Instead, they asked men whether they had ever ‘forced a woman who was not your wife or girlfriend at the time to have sex,’ or if they had ever ‘had sex with a woman who was too drunk or drugged to indicate whether she wanted it.’” If they had used the word “rape,” it’s likely that these same men who admitted to these non-consensual acts would have said they had never raped anyone.
Using #LikeAGirl as an insult is a hard knock against any adolescent girl. And since the rest of puberty’s really no picnic either, it’s easy to see what a huge impact it can have on a girl’s self-confidence. We’re kicking off an epic battle to make sure that girls everywhere keep their confidence throughout puberty and beyond, and making a start by showing them that doing it #LikeAGirl is an awesome thing.
Since dedicating myself to getting into “superhero shape,” several articles regarding my weight have been brought to my attention. Claims have been made that I’ve been on a strict workout routine regulated by co-stars, whipped into shape by trainers I’ve never met, eating sprouted grains I can’t pronounce and ultimately losing 14 pounds off my 5’3” frame. Losing 14 pounds out of necessity in order to live a healthier life is a huge victory. I’m a petite person to begin with, so the idea of my losing this amount of weight is utter lunacy. If I were to lose 14 pounds, I’d have to part with both arms. And a foot. I’m frustrated with the irresponsibility of tabloid media who sell the public ideas about what we should look like and how we should get there.
Feminism does good for men, too. The hyper-masculine ideals of what men should and need to be are created by the patriarchy, and feminists regularly deconstruct those ideas and fight against the assumption that all men need to fit into that box.
One last thing about men: Most feminists do not hate men. It is true that men benefit from the systems set up today so that they occupy 81% of the seats in the US Congress, 95% of the CEO positions at Fortune 500 companies, and make a dollar to a woman’s 77 cents in the US. But this isn’t about hating men. This is about finding a balance.
I never realized until seeing this picture that my interpretation of an average size woman has become REALLY SKEWED oh my god I wanna cry
This reminds me of something Portia de Rossi said in an interview. When she was anorexic she would compare her measurements to that of a mannequin: "It occurred to me to measure the mannequins and to measure myself against them and try to be as small as them, and believe it or not, I don’t think I ever was. That just shows you how crazy these images are that we’re given as women." At her lowest weight she was 82 pounds.